Riding public transportation in a large city for someone who learned to drive in an old pickup truck on a farm in northwestern Kansas where there was not likely to be another living being within several miles is nothing if not an out-of-body experience. The Metro in D.C. is in my top 5 for being both the most useful and the most peculiar experiences of my life. In the mornings there are often high school students on the way to a public school within the same area of Wesley Theological where I am headed. This morning a large group of teens got on the Metro and they were particularly, lets just say, rambunctious. I have my ipod buds in my ears reading the newspaper as all good but disengaged Washingtonians mostly do, and at the next stop, an older women in an electric wheelchair comes bumping into the car just avoiding the closing doors. Suddenly the teens stopped bopping around and yelling and became completely silent. The older women, yet very stately even in the wheelchair is grinning from ear to ear and speaking to one of the teens. I surreptitiously, sort of, took one of my earbuds out to hear the conversation. The woman is asking the teen in front of her if he’s the “leader of the pack.” She asks if he’s the one the rest of the group follows, and if he is, is he a happy sort of fellow? All his peers are staring at him intently, and he stands up, pushes the bill of his cap at a tilt and says, “why yes lady, I AM the leader, and yes I AM happy!” To which she begins to chuckle, her eyes sparkling at receiving a response. Then all the teens start laughing at her and each other and go back to what they were doing before the interruption. I put the earbud back in my ear, glancing at the woman’s face and upon meeting her eyes, received a knowing wink. How smart was she? I suddenly realized that from her “seemingly” physically vulnerable position, she had made a way of safety for herself. Engaging these young men and women had secured their seeing her as a human being, and it is quite difficult to want harm to come to a human being, especially one who has proactively engaged an unexpected but connecting moment of life. She knew those kids were laughing at her as much as with her, but she also knew she was in control of the interaction. Interestingly, two of them held the doors apart until she could get her wheelchair backed out of that Metro car at a following stop – not an easy task, and also not the stop where they were headed.
I don’t know what the teens will remember if anything from this moment in time, but I believe I saw genius at work. Perhaps I have defined disability incorrectly. She was certainly more “able” in that situation than I felt myself to be in my studied disinterest and disengagement in hopes of being unseen or at least ignored. Odd thing is, I doubt I see her again in my life, but I’m wondering if I might not have learned more from her about courage and humanity and just being smart in the face of adversity than from the hundreds of pages of theology and mission in the books in which I’ve been immersed. Ah well, Toto, I don’t think we’re in Kansas anymore . . .